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8 Things Healthy Couples Don’t Do -A few habits to avoid to keep your relationship healthy.
Last week, as I was seated in a coffee shop, a woman angrily left the table where she was sitting with her husband walked to the car angrily smashed the door and drove off. Then there was the couple sitting next to me, the man was staring at his phone the entire time while his wife seemed to be sharing with him her concerns about some important issue. I saw someone post a rant on Facebook about their spouse that ended with, "MEN!"
Relationships are hard, and we've probably all done something similar to these people above. But that doesn't excuse the mistakes we sometimes allow in our romantic relationships. Dating and especially marriage relationships can be tools for showing Christ's love—to the other person and to those around you. Too often, we take our spouses for granted and forget that good relationships don't just happen. They take work, and a lot of time.
It's often harder to see the good relationships, but,here are eight things healthy couples DONT do:
1. Post Negatively About Each Other on Social Media
12-year-olds post negatively about their boyfriends or girlfriends on social media. It's a catty way to get attention and vent, when the emotionally healthy response is to talk your grievances over with your spouse when the time is right. Don't fall into the trap of getting others on your side, on social media or otherwise, because healthy marriages only have one side.
2. Make Their Career a Priority Rather Than Their Relationship
Yes, career is important. But as you are being pulled in every direction imaginable, something will get less attention, less time. Something in your life will have to be sacrificed. Your goal is to make sure that "something" isn't your relationship. You can always find another job, but you only have one chance to make it work with the love of your life.
3. Have All Their 'Together-Time' With Technology
Of course there will be plenty of times that you're together and using technology, but healthy couples know how to put down their phones and computers and turn off the TV to spend quality time together. Healthy couples don't check Twitter or update there facebok statuses on dinner dates.
4. Avoid Hard Subjects
Relationships are about intimacy. If you can't talk about the hard subjects, then your intimacy factor is off. There are seasons of marriage that are easy, and other seasons where you must make difficult decisions together. Nothing should be off-limits between the two of you, and conversations should always be approached with an abundance of grace and kindness.
5. Punish One Another Punishing one another often comes out in the silent treatment or withholding s3x or affection. Healthy couples know when it's good to take a break from a disagreement, but also know how to come back together and find a resolution.
6. Withhold Forgiveness
forgiveness is the art of letting go. Forgive, and ask for forgiveness.You can't have a healthy relationship without abundant forgiveness. The best relationships forgive quickly and frequently. Living with another person will always bring conflict and hurt feelings; the trick is knowing how to handle it.
7. Say 'Yes' to Everything
Healthy couples have good boundaries—with family, with friends and with each other. If I've had a long week at work and my husband asks me to go out with friends on Friday, whose fault is it if I get mad at him on the way home because I didn't want to go in the first place? Mine. Healthy couples know their limits, know how to ask for help, and understand that "no" is a complete sentence.
8. Throw In the Towel
Don't quit! Healthy couples don't give up when things are hard, even when things are really hard. If your spouse is important to you, you can get through this. Quitting is never an option for healthy couples.
Happy Love life to y'all
Remmy
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